Male Rape

I, for one, am very passionate about this subject. It is a societal taboo and I do not believe that there is a need or a reason for it to be as it is a very serious matter that should be acknowledged. People need to understand that this can happen to anybody - young or old, black or white, rich or poor, gay or straight, female or male. Society needs to understand that this does happen to men, that men and boys do get raped and passing jugdement on these men solves nothing and only adds to theirs pain.
Most boys or men who were raped tend to feel guilty and they often blame themselves. They ask themselves the same questions society often asks, How could I allow this to happen to me?, How could I him/them rape me?, I had an erection, does this means I enjoyed it ?, How can I defend my love ones when I could not defend myself ?, Does this means I am gay? And there are a lot of other questions that they asks themselves. These men did nothing wrong though, RAPE is not about sex or sexuality - it is about power and control and is prepitrated by both gay and straight men. Societal views and myths just add fuel to the fire in these men's lives. Being raped does not mean they were weak, it does not make them less of a man. They did not allow themselves to be raped, it just happened. It could happen and in some unfortunate cases have happened to your  friends,fathers, uncles,brothers, husbands, nephews, sons and as a man - You. Do not jugde them, stand by them and show them you still love them. They are still the men they were before it happened and it does not make them less of a man now, let them know that.
Rape is one of the most traumatic thing that can happen to a person. It is horrendous and the pain is excruciating, I know I have been through it myself. I believe though that it is extremely worst for a guy before men's bodies were not made to be invaded and also because according to society they are the symbol of strength. So for a man have that happen to him is like castration without the use of a blade - that is how he will feel. He will need support, love and for the people in his life to stand by him when he needs them most. Do not abandon him, do not judge or blame him him for what happened - he did not asked to be raped. So whether there was a weapon or not, whether he fought or froze, whether he had an erection or not, whether he was drunk,drugged or sober, whether he is gay or straight - do not jugde him as it is the last thing he needs.

FOR BOYS/MEN WHO WERE RAPED

Take comfort in the fact that ,though the nightmares and memories may never go away completely,this is something that can be overcome. It will take time and there will be days when all you want to do is give up but you are not alone in this, as horrible as this might sound, this has happened to many others before you and it is very, very unfortunate that it will happen to many others after you. However, this can be survived, your life can go on, you can overcome this obstacle and reclaim your life from the monsters who sought to take it and break it.

 Hopefully years down the line we will be living in a world where nobody rapes, or gets raped. Until then, your stories and experiences can be used to help present, past and unfortunately future male rape victims to become survivors.

We ( society and individuals) need to end the taboo and dissolve and discredit the myths associated with male rape.